The Crucial Impact of Parenting Styles on Child’s Self Esteem and Mental Wellbeing

Author: Yean Toh | Published date: January 5, 2024 | Category: Mental Wellness, Mind


Parenting styles play a crucial role in shaping a child's self-esteem and mental health. Self-esteem, defined as the combination of one's opinions and feelings about their worth and value, develops through a series of experiences during childhood and adulthood. This article explores the profound effects of parenting styles on a child's self-esteem and mental well-being, emphasizing the importance of nurturing positive environments from an early age.

Understanding Self-esteem and its Impact on Mental Health: Self-esteem acts as a protective factor against various mental health issues such as depression, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, and substance abuse. Children with high self-esteem are more likely to navigate challenges successfully and develop resilience against psychological struggles.

Influences of Parenting Styles on Self-esteem

  • Child-Caregiver Interactions: The quality of interactions between parents and children significantly shapes self-esteem. Positive, supportive interactions contribute to a child's emotional well-being.
  • Caregiver Attitudes and Behavior: The attitudes and behaviors exhibited by caregivers towards their children influence self-esteem. Consistent warmth, affection, and positive reinforcement foster a healthy sense of self-worth.
  • Overall Mood during Interactions: The overall mood set during parent-child interactions can impact self-esteem. A positive and nurturing environment enhances a child's emotional development.

Contributors to Self-esteem:

Contributors to Self-esteem: Several factors contribute to a child's self-esteem, including warmth and affection, validation, responsiveness to the child's needs, and the frequency and severity of disciplinary actions.

Parenting Styles and Their Impact on Self-esteem:

Authoritarian Parenting Style

  • Characteristics: Extremely strict, high control, high expectations, limited warmth.
  • Potential Impact: Low self-esteem, lack of self-identity, feelings of inadequacy, fear of failure, vulnerability to mental health issues.

Authoritative Parenting Style

  • Characteristics: Balanced warmth and control, nurturing, clear expectations.
  • Potential Impact: Higher self-esteem, opportunities for self-identity, independence, and social adeptness, reduced vulnerability to mental health issues.

Permissive Parenting Style

  • Characteristics: Parental warmth, responsiveness, few rules, inconsistent discipline.
  • Potential Impact: Good self-esteem and self-identity, social adeptness, but potential challenges in academic performance, decision-making, and emotion regulation.

Negligent Parenting Style

  • Characteristics: Minimal supervision, emotional support, and responsiveness.
  • Potential Impact: Poor self-esteem and self-confidence, emotional withdrawal, academic underperformance, increased vulnerability to substance abuse.


As the saying goes, "The seed of good mental health is planted as early as childhood." It is imperative for parents to understand the profound impact of their parenting styles on their children's self-esteem and mental health. By fostering positive, nurturing environments and adopting authoritative parenting styles, parents can contribute significantly to the development of resilient and emotionally healthy individuals.

Dr Shawn Ee.

BSc. BPsych. DPsych.(Clinical), Clinical Psychologist & Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist, Registered Psychologist (AHPRA; Australia) 



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